Unfriending 101

Unfriending a friend is really difficult. You’ll think of all your memories with that person. You see, for me there’s this unintentional unfriending and there’s this intentional unfriending.

Unintentional unfriending is when you and your friend grew apart. From the word unintentional meaning, you didn’t do it on purpose, it just happened.

Intentional unfriending is you have a reason why you unfriend him or her. I mean you do it on purpose. Be it because you two had a fight or what but you definitely knew that he or she will not be your friend anymore.

You see, life is really fair but the circumstances were not. Life is being complicated by you and by the people around you. In this toxic world, to not be stressed, you have to cut everything that could stress you. I’m not saying it is easy but I think it should be done.

You’ll know when you need a friend to unfriend. When she or he became toxic, if you gave him or her all the chances he or she could get but always blew the chance. You’re not on the same page anymore. When you think you’re the only one who treasures your friendship.

Friendship is a give and take relationship. It is more than being in a relationship (when a girl is always right even if she is wrong XD). When you think she did something bad to you, you’ll forgive him or her and like versa. It is not a give and give relationship where you’re the only one who is doing the giving part. Forgiving him or her, giving him or her your time, lending your ears, giving yourself. Friendship is not like that. Friendship should be a two-way relationship and not one.

Did someone unfriended me? Yes, and I’ve been living with it ever since. The what ifs. What if I shouldn’t be too sensitive? What if I became more forgiving, what if I didn’t get mad or what if I shouldn’t said what I said. All the what ifs but I always go down to: Is it worth it? The friendship, I mean? When every time you think of that person you only realized that you became too forgiving and too understanding when in fact it was your the only time you vent out? So yeah, the friendship isn’t worth regretting.

Did I unfriend a friend? Of course it happened to me. I’ve been doing it for a long time. I had been unfriending friends for half of my life. You can easily gain my trust, yeah, but I could only give a few chances for you to gain it back, and when I am done. I am really done. You may say that I’m ruthless, who could do that right? But when you were fed up with everything she or he did to you, you can’t say that you are ruthless. You just know your worth.

But don’t get me wrong okay? I am a very forgiving person. I don’t easily triggered by someone and I don’t easily cut someone’s out of my life. You really did something really bad to me for me to unfriend you.

I have friends who used me. I have friends who became my friends because of what I could give them. What I could do right? I really like to have friends way back elementary to high school. Since I’ve been bullied a lot and a lot of my classmates don’t like me, I get what I could get. And that really hurts me this days; thinking about my younger self, being treated like that. I wanna say to her that “Girl, it’s not worth it. You should know better.” But what could I do, I crave for something. Who wouldn’t want to be accepted right?

I became better when I was in college. I didn’t crave for someone’s attention, I realized that when a friend is really a friend to you, he or she will stay for who you are not for what you could give them.

I treasure all of my friends when I was in college. I still get in touch with them from time to time. We still go out, we still communicate. But then, life happens and people change. You may not know it right away but you will. People won’t stay the same as you know them before. But it will be your choice if you will stick to them or not.

I still have lots of friends, and I will forever be grateful for them. I believe that even if you lose some, you will also gain some. So it is up to you if you accept it or not.

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In time, I will lose friends but the girl beside me in this picture, she is my constant. No matter what happened she will remain as my constant.

So yeah, Sorry for this lengthy post. I don’t know what’s gotten into me but I really like to write about this for quite some time now.

Till next time guys!

All the love,

Sidneyenyen

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

When you found friends who are willing to go north pole to south pole back and forth then you have friends for keeps. Having friends is not based on how long you knew them (but of course it’s a big factor!!) but it is the duration you stay being friends. I don’t have lots of friends but what I have is enough for me.

Having friends it not about the quantity but the quality, I have friends that betrayed and used me before as I told you at one of my blogs (Son Won Dong ft Barney and friends) I used to be bullied. But that didn’t stop me from finding my true friends.

So here I am now with my first few new friends in Accenture. How can I tell that these people are friends for keeps? Simple. They made me happy all the time. We share almost the same interest and they accepted me as a bipolar, snob, funny, smart, sexy, pretty and humble person. What’s not to keep right?

If we share two thing in common it will be the love of food and sucker of freebies! In our almost 3 months of friendship we conquer Makati! (lol! OA mats) but seriously we eat a lot. It may not be as frequent as we like but it is enough for us to bond.

And now the two of them leaved us because they’re roll off on the project but I hope know that we’ll still be friends no matter what, we’ll plan our next bonding and soon we’ll share the laughter and stories we share. We may have misunderstandings, fights and we may hate each other once in a while but these factors will make us strong and whoever will be at the finish line with me for sure even if you’re annoyed with my tactlessness or my witty comments or me being humble all the time, I will stick to you like a bubblegum in your shoe. Sticky and wet 😛

See you soon friends! until our next bonding (this friday, I’ll be baking and we’ll laugh and eat!!!)
Meet my friends! We called ourselves The Guardian 🙂 Sino ako diyan? Can you guess?
Comments are love.

Till next time, Ciao!
Sidney

Song Do Won ft. Barney and friends

Hi guys! This was supposed to be posted last year though I forgot to published it so please allow me to edit the time and date though please forgive me for the permanent link. It sucks!!!!!
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This would be my last post for the year 2014. Sorry for my throwback post but there are more to come! lols. hahhahahha! 
Before anything else, I’ll give you a piece of me today. When I was in High School, if we’re the same age and year, I’m the least you want to become friends. I don’t know why but that’s the truth about me, but I am not a loner let’s just say that I am an outcast. My classmates don’t want my guts, the main reason is I am childish. They don’t like me being loud and carefree, but I still managed to have friends. I have friends that were my classmates, though not plenty but enough for me. They are true and accept me for who I am.
I don’t really care about being loved before, I just want to play and want to live my life. That’s the thing when you’re childish and carefree. You enjoyed life to the fullest and never care about others. That may be the reason (I think) why most of my classmates didn’t like me.
You may think that my high school life was a disaster. You’re wrong. My high school life may not be like most of you guys. T’was not perfect, but it was a memorable one. 
When my sister became a freshie, I was in my junior years. Being a FC as ever, I started to socialized with her friends. I even spent my Christmas party with them for 2 years, I don’t know when it was started but before I graduated my sister’s friends became my friends. Some of my fellow classmates may not accept me for who I am but my sister’s friends did. I don’t know if we had the same mindset or whatever but look us now. We’re still friends. some of them are the godparents of my little macho. I treated them as my own sister and brother. Sure we had our ups and downs but they are still here for me and I am still here for them.
Forgive me for my loooong introduction. So here it is. How I celebrate my day with my friends. 
We had lunch at Song Do Won, thanks again to my loving mama for this #voucherdate. Since it was taken last July I may not give you a good review about Song Do Won, just a couple of pointers. First, if you like to order an extra rice just keep it in mind that their extra rice cost 50 php for a single serving. 
Lastly, You may want to order the Beef Bulgogi Hotpot because it’s superb! The sweetness of the stew plus the freshness of the vegetables and beef. I almost had a mouthgasm! We ordered another one of this! You should try it.
I really enjoy eating in a Korean restaurant because of the free side dishes. Ulam na kasi siya. They are generous with their servings unlike other cuisines I tasted and tried. Korean cuisine is one of the best!

After eating at Song Do Won, we continue our escapades at MOA to watch She’s Dating The Gangster. We really like the book so we’re excited about watching it. We enjoyed the movie though we’re searching for the other scenes found in the book. Having my macho watch it was another experience for us because it was the first time my macho entered a cinema unfortunately we can’t keep him quiet inside, so we heard a lot of “sssshhhhhh” hehehe. Also, Keyn kept singing the most memorable line on the movie “Go sexy, Go sexy, go sexy sexy love” with matching dance steps. It was sooo fun to watch.
After watching, we again ate at a pizza parlor I can’t remember the name. (sorry for being lame >.<)
After that, Photo Op!

They said that they’re blessed to be my friend but actually it’s the other way around. I am blessed to have them. They saved me from being a loner (lol!) I may have few friends but they are true.
Till next time, Ciao!
Sidney

#friends

I miss these guys! my brothers and sister (hahahhaha) at heart. They are the exact example ng hindi mahalaga ang haba ng pinagsamahan. They may be not the nicest persons on earth but I really love them to bits. I miss being the bitch. hahahaha! I miss being the mommy of these guys! Since I am a year older (except to bern he’s the eldest. picture below) I miss yelling at them and I miss the sound of their voice hahahhaha! enough of this cheesiness. I just want to say that I miss you guys!. I hope we’ll see each other soon 🙂 wait for my birthday treat. Zarks?
Treasure your friends! Comments are love 🙂